Here’s what we’ve been up to over the last 4 weeks:
1. Paperwork! Lots of it… and. we. still. aren’t. done. There is definitely a great deal of paperwork in the early stages of adoption with the home study and adoption agency application processes, but we’ve discovered that there is more! And that’s okay. This is in a large part due to the fact that we are adopting out of the state of Kentucky in sunny Florida, in fact. Enter my new friend, the Interstate Compact on the Placement of Children, or ICPC. This is the law in all 50 states, District of Columbia, and the Virgin Islands in which the adoptive parents’ state and the baby’s state work together to make sure that the adoptive parents are approved and fit for the adoption to take place. Parts of the requirements include submitting our home study and the documents that go with it- over 15 to be exact. I’ve got one more to go! Phew.
There is also other additional paperwork at this stage, much of it requiring visits to a notary- I believe our last notary visit makes it our fourth so far! This legal aspect of adoption is so important and if it’s another document or visit to the notary, by golly, Baby Burge is the best reason to do it!
2. Communication! We’ve had the opportunity to begin building a relationship with our birthmom and it has been a fun, nerve-racking, and very rewarding experience. On March 18th, we started texting and since then, we’ve had a few opportunities for phone conversations. My insides were filled to the brim with butterflies with each text! I warned Craig that I could vomit before our very first phone call with our birthmom. And I wasn’t joking! I just wanted everything to go perfectly for her and most of all, not do anything too socially awkward. I know God provided for us during these times by giving us words to speak and calming our nerves, especially mine. Everything has gone so well and just continues to confirm God’s care for our birthmom and us. This communication has also been a wonderful way for our birthmom and us to share our excitement for one another and begin creating a wonderful foundation for an ongoing relationship.
3. Travel! Over three days, Craig and I drove to Daytona Beach and back... to meet our birthmom. It was a whirlwind trip, driving more than 1700 miles over a long weekend, but so worth it! We fought all the Spring Break travelers down 75 South to meet up at Joe’s Crab Shack for lunch. This meeting reaffirmed how special our birthmom is and helped us understand her heart and how big it is. We still had driving to do after lunch and needed to leave in the early afternoon, but we could’ve easily stayed and talked for many more hours.
All the while, in the midst of the chaos and challenges, God has shown Himself to be the Provider. He continues to demonstrate that He will provide for our every need! Whether it’s from someone to watch our pets, check the mail, give us a place to stay, God had us covered. It’s easy for Craig and me to see this, but I hope it’s evident to you too. As Psalm 54:4 states, “Surely God is my help; the Lord is the one who sustains me.” Surely, this is the truth! God has paved a path, because surely Craig and I know that we could not have done this without Him. It would’ve been too much for me. I would’ve already given up. But, God “provide[s] a broad path for my feet, so that my ankles do not give way” (2 Samuel 22:37). Amen!